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Cause and Effect

Keep putting good energy out there.

  • Do somebody a favor today.
  • Pay for someone’s coffee.
  • Pick up a piece of trash.
  • Shovel your neighbor’s walk when you’re out doing yours.

Karma is real – cause and effect. The more good you put in the world, the more good there will be in the world.


Sit Up Straight

Okay, I’m going to channel my best inner-mom when I tell you this… “Sit up straight!” In addition to not looking like a slouch, good posture helps your singing and speaking tremendously. Lining up your vocal apparatus and activating your core is damn near everything you are trying to accomplish with voice lessons, and good posture is the end-all, be-all, holy grail of setting it all up for you. Activating your core has more benefits, too. It sets you up to be a physically stronger person. Strength comes from your core, and by keeping it active, you are essentially always working out. Last, but entirely not least, sitting, standing, and walking with good posture makes you feel better, stronger, and more confident, and when you’re feeling better, stronger, and more confident, you are going to feel happier. Good posture will literally improve your life, so let’s get on it.

When I remind myself to check my standing posture, I always imagine there is a string attached to the crown of my head, pulling me up like a marionette and stretching my spine. A couple side to side stretches and a deep breath later, I’m in power town, and I’m feeling more limber. If I’m sitting down, I sit so that I feel ready to stand up at any time. It keeps me super energized and ready to sing and play with energy and vigor. Try it yourself and see if you feel better and more energized. If you’ve been slouching for years, a lot of these muscles will put up a little fight when you start activating them for the first time, but keep it up, and you’ll eventually train good posture as your default. Until that happens, try to make occasional posture checks into a habit. Set a reminder on your phone or ask a friend or significant other to remind you from time to time.

Keep thinking positive, keep smiling, and get after that good posture. Your body and soul will thank you for it.


Happy Holidays

The final six weeks of the year are filled with holidays from Thanksgiving to New Years and everything in between. In our household alone, we spent Thanksgiving, Chanukah, and Christmas with our family, the Solstice with our neighbors, Festivus with our friends, and New Years Eve is always a big night for Piano Fondue. Whew! The point is, this is a season chock-full of gratitude, reflection, joy, love, peace, and giving. It is the time to think about what all of these things mean to you. Take the time to be quiet. Embrace the opportunity to be raucous. Spend time alone, and spend time with friends and family. Find a moment and make it special for you. Find another and make it special for someone else. Celebrate the big and the small.

But why stop there? These aren’t themes unique to this season. Remind yourself to value these ideals throughout the year. I’m going to open my calendar right now and make a note to read this post again later in the year – let’s say four months from today. [note to future self: Hi, buddy – looking good! Re-post this and put it in the calendar another four months out.]

Wishing you the best in 2016. Stay in touch.


Comfort Zones

As a bit of an introvert, I am constantly coming face-to-face with the limits of my Comfort Zone. It can be a challenge to get past that brick wall, but I have found that the more I fight past it, the weaker it becomes. Whether it is introducing myself to fellow business leaders in town or cold-starting my piano show in front of a small crowd of strangers, putting on a smile and jumping in really works. Try it!

Keep pushing your limits, and you’ll find that they start melting away. The fact that our Comfort Zones exist is proof that we aren’t taking enough chances in life. Put yourself out there. You will fall flat on your face a couple times, but you’ll land on your feet a couple times, too. The more you stretch yourself, the easier it will become, and the better you’ll get at it! The Comfort Zone is on the list of our enemies. Fight it!


Making Choices

For a long time I was hesitant while making important choices. The problem was that I wanted to have the most information in front of me as possible before choosing. Makes sense, right? Well, here’s the thing. A lot of times you don’t know what the right decision would have been until way later, and the consequences of making the wrong choice usually aren’t nearly as bad as the consequences of making no choice. You may lose your opportunity, fall behind, or (even worse) develop a reputation of indecisiveness!

When faced with a decision, of course think about it, but do so with the information you have now. Trust your gut, but don’t mistake nervousness for a red flag. You will always be nervous when making a quick decision.

Make choices when presented with them. If it’s the wrong decision, great! It’s an opportunity to learn and grow and make better choices in the future.


I Love Meditating

I love meditating. It calms me down. It wakes me up. It organizes my thoughts and focuses my mind. In this post I’ll be sharing my specific meditation practice. I don’t personally come at meditation from a spiritual viewpoint – there’s absolutely nothing wrong with meditative spiritual experiences, but I just use it as a tool for my mind and mood.

The thing to keep in mind when practicing meditation is that there is no failure. Hell, taking one intentional deep breath leaves you better off than you were before. There is no reason to not try.

When I meditate, I try to sit full-lotus (cross-legged with each foot resting atop the opposite thigh). If I’m not limber enough that day, I’ll sit half-lotus (same thing, except only one foot is atop the opposite thigh). Holding my body in these semi-stressful positions really helps keep me alert. If you can’t pull off a lotus, try it kneeling down or sitting in a chair.

I face a blank wall (no visual distractions), and I don’t close my eyes. I don’t really focus my eyes on anything though – more just middle-distance gazing. I keep a notepad or my phone next to me, and I set a timer for fifteen minutes. Here we go…

All you do is focus on your breaths. Breathe deeply. I count to ten – breathe in (one), breathe out (two), breathe in (three), etc. (going back to one after getting to ten). Focus ONLY on your breath. Feel it fill your lungs. Other thoughts will come to mind. When they do, try to ignore them. Push them aside and concentrate on counting those breaths. Sometimes I will remember important things that I had forgotten about, or maybe a great idea will pop into my mind. That’s why I have the notepad. I write it down so I don’t have to worry about pushing the thought aside as I meditate and possibly losing it again!

After the fifteen minutes elapse, I stand up, stretch a bit, and get on with my day – refreshed, renewed, and rarin’ to go! I know that fifteen minutes can seem like a long time to sit still like this. When starting out, just shoot for five. Or three, even. Any little bit will help clear your mind and focus your thoughts. Give it a shot!


How did you do? Any tricks you use while meditating? Obstacles? Share them in the comments!

Give It Away Now

One thing that has really taken over my life these days is clutter. It is extra present for my wife and me, having just moved into a new house and finally getting all our stuff out of storage. We’ve been spending the past year and a half living in a one bedroom apartment, and over that time, we’ve really discovered what we need and what we don’t need.

Even if you are not currently dealing with dozens of boxes filled with who knows what, you could probably benefit from shedding some of the crap you have hanging around. That stuff is weighing you down and visually stressing you out. I like keeping a box in the house for Goodwill. Every week (more like multiple times a day for us!) find something in your house that you don’t need in your life (maybe it’s a sweater or a bowl or a bobblehead) and put it in the box. Every month or so, run the box over to Goodwill. Hell, grab a receipt and write that shit off your taxes!

Make it a habit – you will love having less clutter in your life. Live free!


Happy Thanksgiving

Wishing everybody a wonderful Thanksgiving. I’ll be back on the website soon. Francie and I are moving into a new house, and it’s been quite a bit of work getting situated. Have a great holiday, and if you’re heading to the stores in the morning, try not to trample anyone!